Kes (19_99) wrote,
Kes
19_99

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Dear proud owners of the Y chromosome:

I've noticed lately, that I do a funny thing. When I get to a door before someone, I hold it open for them. Some people consider this good manners.

Now, the way I understand it, it's also good manners to walk through this door and say "Thank you". Granted, if you don't say thank you, it's fine. And yes, it is a little bit of a pet peeve of mine when someone insists on pushing the door open when I'm clearly holding it, but I suppose if that's your thing, go for it.

What I do not understand is why I am running into more and more males who flat out refuse to walk through a door I am holding for them. Nor am I any more capable of understanding why someone would literally push me through said doorway so I could go first. So far the only explanations I have received fall along the lines of "I'm a gentleman" or "That's not how I was raised".

I would like to inform you that I am not a lady. I do not know how to dance, do needlepoint or sing. I am simply a human being who is trying to be nice to you.

I am also not a crazy feminist. If you were to hold the door for me (without pushing me out of the way to do so) I would walk through and thank you. I am, however, a feminist (to where I believe in gender equality) and saying that me holding a door for you goes against your morals is not a fair argument because me giving up the door for you to hold it and let me go through first goes against mine. And, I don't think I'm being silly in saying that your request is a little more unreasonable than mine is.

To take a line from those men who rant about women who yell at them for holding open a door "I was just trying to be polite, so STFU, bitch."

I also understand that this rant doesn't apply to most guys, and that's awesome; keep up the good work.

-Kes
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